Hello Everyone

[xander1108]

Hi.. If you're reading this then undoubtedly you know my name because I'm one of many reported "bad eggs" that people have been ranting and raving about. I could write a huge essay explaining everything.. what's been going on in my life, why I disappeared, why I couldn't send a lot of peple things that I owe them, and much more that I'm sure could be explained.

All I'm going to say is that I'm sorry. I'm not a thief, I've never been a thief and I will never be. My reasons for hermitting and not communicating with anyone I'm sure you would never understand, so I won't even go there.

I still have all my Nervousness objects organized just the way I had them before. I haven't destroyed, lost or given away anything anybody has sent. I even have had a number of things completed long ago, but I just haven't sent them out.. Again, no point in me explaining.

I have $10 or so a week that I normally have for entertainment purposes and all that, but I'm willing to use it on postage each week until I get everything in the mail that I owe people.

Please, if I owe you part of an exchange or if I have one of your LMAOs in my possession, please send me an email with exactly what I owe you, and your address. I'm going to do my absolute best to get everything out ASAP and you'll never hear from me again. I'm so sorry for being such an annoyance and letting my problems affect the smooth running of this communtiy.

Have a good day.

[imawkward]

I think your claims might be a bit more believeable if you weren't still going out and spending your "entertainment money" on movies and whatnot.

[xander1108]

Believable? I'm sixteen. What do you think I'm going to do with the little money leftover each week after I pay for driver's ed, bills, etc? Of course I'll go to a cafe with my best friend and have a coffee while we talk, or grab a bite to eat after work. Please, don't rant at me. I know disappearing from NNess wasn't a very responsible thing to do, but at the time I didn't have any other choice. I cut everything from my life that ever brought me pleasure so I could sort out what was really important, and Nervousness was one of those things that at one point I loved.

[Katiekat]

Xander, I'm really glad to see you show up and give a little notice about what's going on.  I know people are irked (okay, some are really pissed about the whole cookbook/money thing, but that's not my business since I'm not involved) about your "disappearing" from the site, especially since you have lmaos & exchanges to deal with.  But I am happy that you have come back, and I urge you to wrap up any outstanding projects.  It's very respectable to say you're sorry and got overwhelmed with life.  It happens.  Just hang in there, and keep us up-to-date with your projects (when you're mailing what, who you know you owe stuff to, that sort of thing), and everything should work out okay.  

A suggestion:  if you aren't planning on sticking around, you might want to delete yourself from lmao's that you're signed up for but haven't received yet.  Like my "What you love about Women" book.  Please don't remove yourself from any lmao's or projects that you have or owe something to, or anything that you're next in line for (they could be on the way to you...).

I hope this helps, and if you need any advice, or have questions, you can always message me or leave a Q&A.  

~Katie

[mejaka]

xander, I'm glad you had the courage, I hope life is better, and since you have all the LMAOs still organized, all you need to do is start finishing and mailing them off systematically. Before you know it, you won't have things hanging over your head any more. Check for current addresses as you go, and work at this steadily like a machine...and also, like a machine, just keep plugging in spite of the cussing that may issue from the guys who work with the machine... heh.

[BreezyK]

Wow, xander, you're timing's impeccable! Well, I give you points for having the courage to show back up here, and I hope you'll have the dedication to make things right. Hopefully this will be a lesson learned -- that responsibilities don't just desolve because of our personal problems. It'll be even tougher when you're on your own and those responsibilities have bigger consequences than a bunch of angry artists on your back! http://nervousness.org/forum/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif Anyway, thanks for checking in, and I sincerely hope your words means something this time. As Mermaid always says, "Communication is the answer" (or something to that effect). Keep us posted on your progress.

[subatomiczoo]

it's unfortunate that the usual response to bad eggery typically escalates to harassment and character assassination

as far as i know, that usually precludes the bad egg from ever owning up to any wrong-doing, of ever attempting to make amends. he/she just disappears in ignomy

xander, i give you a lot of credit for coming back and admiting you handled things badly. for a 16 yr old that is really really something

...just keep in touch as you go about making amends. that means a lot to people

z00

[GuineaBaby]

I have to give you kudos for showing up again, but you should have left a note explaining your situation.

[beja]

Believable? I just turned seventeen, and I would never just disappear.. Money is tight, yeah. I'm sure most of the people here have experienced money problems. Please don't use age as an excuse. That's all I'm askin'.

It sucks that you only have 10 dollars left after all of those bills you have to pay.

A few tips:
*having fun doesn't necessarily cost money
*media mail
*"borrowing" a couple stamps from your parents
well i guess that is all of the..legal..advice i can give you. good luck. its nice that you're back.

[kyrasantae]

Hint, beja:

In Canada there is no such thing as media mail for cheaper rates. The rates are the rates, it's all by size and weight, nothing more.

[thunderstorm_19]

yeah, the rates in canada suck sometimes... sending to US and overseas via non-airmail is cheaper, but can make things take several weeks before they arrive... maybe we should write to canada post and request something like media mail to begin existing in canada... (wow, that is one lousy sentence).

[xander1108]

Beja: I wasn't using money or age as an excuse for my disappearance. I was simply stating that "imawkward" said that my reasons for leaving weren't believable simply because I still went out for coffee a couple times a week while I wasn't at NNess.

Also, I didn't say that I needed to keep doing that now that I'm actually forcing myself to get caught up with all my NNess doins.. I said that I'd give up whatever stuff I normally spend my money on in order to get all the things out that I owe to people.

Also, I haven't gotten one email from a NNess member waiting for something from me. The reason I need people to email me is because I lost everything on my computer a while back, including all my Nervousness records and email messages.

Thanks for your help and udnerstanding everyone.

[FriedSpamOnaStik]

</span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td>Quote </td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE">Also, I haven't gotten one email from a NNess member waiting for something from me. The reason I need people to email me is because I lost everything on my computer a while back, including all my Nervousness records and email messages.
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Uh... here's an idea: why not check the QUESTIONS on your Nervousness page.
Many members you owe things too do not visit the forums.
You could also look at your Nervous People Cook LMAO (http://nervousness.org/lmao/index.cgi?id=6033) to find the email of members whom you've taken money from.

Hope this solves your problem.

[imawkward]

</span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td>Quote </td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE">[/b][/quote]
</span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td>Quote </td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE">Beja: I wasn't using money or age as an excuse for my disappearance. I was simply stating that "imawkward" said that my reasons for leaving weren't believable simply because I still went out for coffee a couple times a week while I wasn't at NNess.[/b][/quote]

Actually, this is what I said:

</span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td>Quote </td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE">I think your claims might be a bit more believeable if you weren't still going out and spending your "entertainment money" on movies and whatnot. [/b][/quote]

The fact is, movies are very expensive and if you plan on fulfilling your promises of sending out all the lmaos you have, you'll probably have to stop going to see them for a little while. Actions speak louder than words and yes, people will be more likely to believe you if you show them that you're really making an effort. That's all. I'm sorry if I was rude.

[eenie]

</span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td>Quote (imawkward @ Oct. 27 2002,12:24)</td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE">The fact is, movies are very expensive and if you plan on fulfilling your promises of sending out all the lmaos you have, you'll probably have to stop going to see them for a little while. Actions speak louder than words and yes, people will be more likely to believe you if you show them that you're really making an effort. That's all. I'm sorry if I was rude.[/b][/quote]
given the circumstances, i'd say that you were hardly rude.http://nervousness.org/forum/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif

[kittie_naughty]

I don't see anything rude about the former point made, either.

Correct me if I've misinterpreted anything Adam, but I rather feel like you're taking the piss out of us when you write about how you went out for coffees during your "break" from nness. Moreover, I'm steamed when I read that you've "lost" your nness "records (...) and emails" and are waiting for everybody to come running to you now to stake their claims. As FSOAS pointed out more calmly than I will now: Hello? Kindly check your bloody page, will you please? Geesh! Are you pulling our leg(s)? You've got 17k unanswered questions there and the 40 people who sent you $$ for the cookbook should be a priority on your lmao-to-do-list, no? Money is not an issue with getting that bit out in the post, cos you've already had the money for over two months!

Am I being too old-fashioned when I think there's no excuse for such a disappearing act? When I think that if one can go out to meet friends for coffee that one can also answer his questions and let concerned people know what's up with their projects? Heavens! There have been people on nness who have experienced deaths in the family and still been able to communicate and update in due time. Coffee drinking and cinema? I'm absolutely flabbergasted. Honestly.

[kittie_naughty]

Postscript: I'm not trying to drag this topic on and on, Adam. Just don't rub it in, that's all. Get the stuff out you owe, and then everybody will be happy and forget about it. Life will go on. It always does, even if one sometimes thinks it won't.